COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE

COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE
Speaking the truth in love to one another makes us grow up in our relationship with God. But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is th
head, even Christ: Ephesians 4:15
A husband and wife must be the best of friends; share every success, disappointment, joy ane pain together.
Husband and wife must always make the effort to speak to each other (the children in turn learn this). A clear sign of unhappiness is when the couple are very quiet at home but immediately a visitor arrives, they begin to talk. They, however, revert to silence when the visitor leaves,
1. Good Communication results in growth.
But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: Ephesians 4:15
2. Speaking brings relief and healing.
I said, I will answer also my part, I also will show mine opinion. For I am full of matter, the spirit within me constraineth me.Behold, my belly is as wine which hath no vent; it is ready to burst like new bottles. I will speak, that I may be refreshed: I will open my lips and answer. Job 32:17-20
3. Choose to speak life.
Denth and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21
(a) Speak good things about your spouse, e.g. "I love you, you are wonderful, you look sweet, you look charming", etc
(b) Confess positive things about your marriage.
(c) Express your love to each other verbally.
(d) Speak about things that you do/do not like.
(e) Speak to edify.
SPEAKING THE TRUTH
1. Speak the truth, and be transparent to each other.
And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:25
2. If we are allowed to think about these things, then we can say them. 
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Phillipians 4:8
3. Do not pretend. The truth will show up later, but it may be too late
Let no corrupt conmunication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29
Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6
SPEAK THE TRUTH IN LOVE
I. Speak the truth by all means, but speak it in love.
This means:
(a) Be carcful how you communicate what you have to say."
(b) Be careful when you communicate what you have to say,
A Word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. Proverbs 25:11
A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season how good is it! Proverbs 15:23
The Lord God hath given me the tongue of the learned, that I should know to speak a word in season to him that is weary; he Wakeneth morning by morning, he wakeneth mine ear to hear as the learned. Isaiah 50:4
2. Do not be carried away by your emotional distress.
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edilying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29
Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6
I said, I will answer also my part, I also will show mine opinion. For I am full of matter, the spirit within me constraineth me. Behold, my belly is as wine which hath no vent; it is ready to burst like new bottles. I will speak, that I may be refreshed: I will open my lips and answer. Job 32:17-20
AVOID THESE THINGS
(a) Shouting.
(b) Insulting.
(c) Arguing to win.
(d) Doing all the talking without listening to the other side.
(e) Always keeping quiet and refusing to communicate.
(f) Avoid words like 
i. You are always late!
ii. You are never there when I need you!
ii.You never do anything right!
THINGS NOT TO SAY
(a) I will slap you!
(b) I will divorce you!
(c) You are hopeless!
(d) You are useless!
(e) I blame myself for marrying you!
(f)  go to hell!
(g) You call yourself a man!
(h) I hate you
(I) Can't you be like Mr. X or Madam Y?
(j) You are ugly, you are a witch!
(k) This marriage will not last!
(L) I don't think we are meant for each other!
(m) Prostitute
(n) I don't love you anymore!!
(o) If you misbehave, I'Ill leave you!
 OTHER WAYS OF COMMUNICATING
(a) Giving of gifts
(b) Touching and kissing.
(c) Writing of notes/letters etc.
(d) Singing (indirectly conveying a message in song-this can be good or bad; always choose the good).
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