UPROOTING BITTERNESS IN MARRIAGES AND FAMILIES

UPROOTING BITTERNESS IN 
MARRIAGES AND FAMILIES
…“lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled…” Hebrews 12:15b
I am thoroughly convinced that the root of bitterness is one of the most deadly and common issues gripping the hearts of people. Bitterness knows no age. It can be described as something pointed, sharp and keen, irritating, extremely wicked or deep sorrow and grief affecting the emotions and mental state. It is a seed of painful experiences, hurt, and disappointment which latches on to the heart, mind, emotions, and even our physical body. It becomes rooted when it seeps into the inner person and consumes our thought life, affecting our decisions, and relationships. 
Do you know what is rooted in your heart
From the root of bitterness springs anger, wrath, ill speaking, envy, and jealousy. Bitterness can also be the seed of many diseases, mental illness, emotional instability and destructive behaviors, Broken marriages and families division.
 The thing about roots is that they grow beneath the surface, hidden to the naked eye. They also grow downward and become firmly established before growing up and producing fruit. Roots will spring up and the plant affect everyone around it. And so it is with bitterness.
In dealing with this root of bitterness, you must first deal with yourself and what is in your heart. Are you still hurt or in pain from childhood issues with parents, rejection and bullying in school, social ills, and even parental neglect, sexual, and verbal abuse? Have you gone through the pain of divorce, death of loved ones, being mistreated or overlooked on your job, or economic failures? Are you dealing with sickness or a physical handicap? The question is what has it produced in your heart? In order for you to move on, you can’t just deal with the external factors of life, you must deal with yourself. Identify the poison of your emotions and take control of your own life. You are not responsible for the shortcomings of other people, but you can do something about your own life, health, and emotions. Please brothers and sisters forgive those who hurt you. I just want to remind you of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ who suffered and died on the cross. He was severely mistreated, but He said, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” In other words, even if people hurt you deliberately, they still may not understand what they are doing. They may think their behavior is acceptable, but eventually, evil comes back when evil is planted. But there are also unintentional hurts. The secret to healing is to release your hurt and the need to retaliate so that it does not take root in your soul. And of course, forgive yourself. Life happens and you can’t turn the clock back to fix things. But learn to trust God. Offenses in life will come! I believe that there is power in counseling, and should be utilized if necessary. But I believe that effective tools in digging up the root of bitterness are to spend time in prayer and the study of scripture as you release your emotions and the situation to God. You must believe that God knows your situation.
Years ago I was dealing with a very distressing situation. I was led to study the book of Psalms to discover how King David first dealt with his disappointment, and how he prayed for his enemies. So to safeguard my emotions against bitterness, I read through Psalms 1-150 and prayed David’s prayers. This helped me to release my emotions and disappointments to God. Through this, I learned how to love and forgive, and feel compassion toward my offender. It really works!
Everything that happens in your life, the good, the bad and the ugly will always work together for your good to bring you to your God intended destiny. So don’t sweat it…today, just dig up that root of bitterness and let God do the replanting!
Pray this Prayers: 
Father, take control of my heart, uprooting every root of bitterness. I Jesus name 
Father, thank you for deliverance from the root of bitterness. I Jesus name Amen
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